Much to the surprise of many marriage minded and available women these days, the amount of men who shun marriage are a growing faction who very existence make an already negative situation even gloomier.
For some, they would swear up and down that it’s the opposite. So I guess it depends on who one speaks to on this matter, but for the most part, a shift is transpiring in the dating scene and no matter WHO you are, you HAVE to admit that things are JUST not the same!
I’ve heard many answers to this dilemma and would love for all to call in and share your experiences if you are a woman and you reasons/observations if you are a man.
I believe a healthy dialogue will erase any foolish presumptions not based on fact as well as bring into focus a clearer reality that has been blurred by frustration and an overwhelming emotional fervor.
But I have heard a few things in my travels on why the glorious union called marriage is on the decline as a desired option from the male side and I must say that those ideals have been very interesting and quite telling.
First of all in this modern society that we live in, the institution of marriage to many men is more of a financial risk that about two people being together forever in love. Many potential marriage partners have trashed the idea of ever getting married out of the fear of losing everything that they’ve worked for to an unbalanced court system that appears to be hellbent or demonizing all things male.
So they prefer to date or merely live together as for them there is no risk outside of a broken heart, but at the end of the day they feel that it’s a lot better to be hurt emotionally than to be hijacked financially in a legal manner that could cripple their standard of living for the rest of their life.
Yes, these types will pass on the marriage vows, too risky!
So why commit when living the single life is so much easier? Many have come into this mindset after dealing with the money hungry biological clock ticking anxious females who have an agenda all their own where the man is merely an interchangeable component in THEIR world. With this kind of assembly line thinking in the romance department, what’s a man supposed to do?
May see the respect that is not given to their married peers shortly after the vows have been taken and see how their married friends have turned into these bitter entities who do NOT resemble the careful upbeat “take life by the horns” type of guy that they knew and become very frightened that this too might be their destiny if choosing the wrong marriage partner.
Others have space concerns because possibly they’ve lived alone for so long and do not want to give up the ability to retreat to their man-cave and shut the world out when they feel the need to. Foolish as it may sound, this in fact is a VERY important thing for most men as we ARE very territorial!
Another overlooked point is that many men fear the fact that one woman will have so much control over their sex life. As rotten as it may seem this is a concern because many time we have seen a friend stuck in a marriage where he is not being satisfied physically. It was all well and good right up to the moment when he said “I DO” but almost immediately afterward that caring concerned and very sensuous woman that he fell in love with turned cold and distant in the sex department! Bait and switch? Yes, it happens often and these men who fear that scenario happening to them would rather stay on the open market to enjoy the delicious rotation.
All of this is there to worry about in the minds of those men who shun marriage and the other “non perk” is that one will lose out on the freedom to move about the face of the earth with their buddies. Sure, marriage is a commitment and one must cling to their Wife, but some wives make it appear that a man has to be on lock down with every moment of their lives being monitored as if they were being tailed by the FBI and CIA combined! We all need our time alone with our friends as men and the fear of losing this is just a great deal breaker that will stop many men dead in their tracks to not EVER consider the institution of marriage at all!
So as you can see, there are some very real concerns out here on the dating landscape on both sides and I look forward to all of us speaking and sharing our views in yet another wonderful evening of adult conversation where we all can come away from the experience even more enlightened and knowledgeable with some of our own questions possibly answered.
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Time: Friday June 28, 2013 @ 10 p.m. Eastern Standard Time
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