A woman scorned.

This is often not the case because we, as men, do some jacked-up things to get a woman to act crazy, but we know that there are some cases where this term fits a situation like a glove.

What makes it worse is when that scorned woman still loves the man she pushed away but will never admit.

This so-called love has turned into a toxic hate where she wants nothing more than to see her former mate dead. Even then, I believe that the realization of the final ending of her former beau wouldn’t even be enough to erase the toxicity of hate in her heart.

We as men (And ladies too, I am just writing this piece from a man’s point of view today!) must be very careful who we choose to commit ourselves to because often, the very one who we allow into the inner chambers of our heart can be the very one who will be the very one who will not hesitate to stab that same heart with deadly intentions.

There are “some” men who have chosen to move on from a toxic relationship and have had to take many a “short” to gain their new life and freedom.

It’s a whole lot easier to deal with having smashed credit that was riddled with foreclosures, repossessions, write-offs, and sky-high credit card bills than it is to deal with real-life, breathing human being who is hellbent on being an opposing force in your life and smearing your signature moments of newfound victory with the dung from the low points of your life.

Yes, as righteous victorious men, we may have some low points on record from our past, but you cannot allow anyone to make you believe that you are only your low points! What that scorned woman cannot stand is that your present victories and ascensions will dilute the effectiveness of her character-assassinating campaign and render it powerless!

So never react to the stones thrown by her in a manner that would lend credibility to all that she has spoken about you and your character. To quarantine those frivolous attacks and ignore them will render her to the level of a babbling fool, and after a time, it will become quite evident to the masses as to who is in dire need of mental help.

You are in a new day and a new life; it is only an attempt to control the victorious present with the dirt-laced issues of the past.

This is an even more critical mindset to retain if you have become very successful in your chosen field of excellence because it can bring out such a murderous intent in that woman who once had you all to herself, mistreated you, and took you for granted when you were all hers. It’s almost like having the winning lottery ticket and losing it while later seeing how someone else found it to cash it in and live a prosperous life!

This can drive that scorned woman crazy to the point where all she can dream of is her downfall.

But no matter how much hate resides in her and her dysfunctional cheerleading squad, it can never be enough to rob you of your new life or stop the glorious parting of your personal Red Sea!

What do I mean by this?

The scorned woman will utilize every option to make your life a living hell and stop at nothing to one day stand over you in twisted victory and live for that moment until the day she dies! The sad part about it is some of us live under divine protection that will never allow this negatively based individual ever to see that day that they so profoundly crave to come.

You might have innocent children together, and she will bring those children into her unrelated issues with you to amplify your pain and frustration as a means of having power and control over you.

You would have child support if there were a dissolved marriage. Still, no matter how challenging the system is in your pocket; it is a lot easier than living in a prison cell because of a heated moment of unguarded anger that now has you incarcerated because of a murder charge.

Please. NEVER get pushed to that point.

You might be smeared, talked about, ridiculed, rejected, ejected, and lied on…….

Whatever the case, you must never do that wicked waltz of death with the scorned woman because as long as you go back and forth with her, your new reality will never arrive!


No matter what most men would like to think, you cannot swing more than one relationship simultaneously. Even if you are living under the same roof with that scorned woman and your days together sharing the same address is limited, your heart may not be there, and your present arrangement may be merely a shell of its former glory, and your scorned woman deep down will know this.

Be careful if you transition away from a toxic union with this type of woman because she might be capable of setting you up where you will never be suitable for anyone else!

Cops may be called to arrest you on bogus charges, or fabricated accusations on lowdown deeds may be levied at you to hide what she has in her heart that is not very wholesome!

But it would be best if you held on regardless because NO reality lasts forever, especially one that attempts to block a life chosen to do great things and that was ordained by the Creator Himself to manifest a mighty work at a precise time.

There are times that the legal ramifications will leave you broke and penniless with a strained faith, as you might not even know where your next meal is coming from or what park bench you will choose to sleep on that night…….

Keep stepping, my friend; your tragedy of a Red Sea won’t touch you no matter HOW bad it appears!

Sure, you might have to deal with a bit of hunger.

You might have to deal with being straight broke for a time.

It may even be where you have to skip a shower or two because of your unpredictable living conditions but do know that your Red Sea has been parted for a reason!

Understand that while that scorned woman will run you down like Pharaoh ran down Moses in the bed of the parted Red Sea, her aggressions levied against you and your character will swallow her up so fast as you cross over to the other side to shine to the glory of God!

Never move in fear and always keep the faith as you hurriedly move into your new destiny; you will hear the stomping feet of the scorned woman trying to keep up behind you…….

You will hear her curse you and bring up every bad thing that you may do in the past but understand that once God has forgiven you, there is nothing that she can say to make Him drop down those mighty waters to drown you!

Never slow your pace as you move forward to your new reality while she haphazardly works overtime to destroy every connection you had to the old…….


It doesn’t matter anymore.

God has a new job for you.

New friends for you.

A new home for you.

More money for you.

A world that will respect you for who you are no matter what is said about you from your past.

Refuse even to entertain the words that will be screamed at you as your every step to the other side is like a dagger driven into the heart of that scorned woman who knows deep down inside that she lost a good thing and that there is truly no hope in holding on to the toxicities that she displays so brazenly to bring you down.

She knows that she is powerless, and this is what you will see as that very same sea that was miraculously parted for you will come crashing down on her as every trap, every curse, and every evil deed that was ever conjured up and executed to bring you down is washed away always…….

The scorned woman has no power over us, Brother, if we stay connected to what is right even if we were guilty of doing something wrong in the past!

Never allow your past to define your future, no matter how many screaming demons proclaim otherwise!

You were chosen to do mighty work in this lifetime and not to be a minimized, ridiculed, defeated footnote in the trail of a twisted scorned woman’s path!

…….living good is indeed the best revenge.

Eat your hearts out.

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S. Anonymous
S. Anonymous
March 30, 2022 9:36 PM

Just read your post and enjoyed your writing! This describes exactly what my brother is going through with his wife right now and their very acrimonious separation. Will pass it on to give him the confidence boost he deserves!

May 4, 2021 3:23 AM

Sounds like my ex boyfriend and I am so glad to have made it out. GOD was and is the ONLY way!

Roger Mueller
Roger Mueller
January 19, 2021 3:50 PM

I’m a white dude and got your message , recognize that wisdom is in no way any related to the type or shade of skin you were born with.. Lived a lot of this (payback obsessed)
stuff for 38 yrs now. Reminds me a lot about the biblical story of Samson and Delilah.

June 5, 2017 11:58 PM

What if the man was the one who did the dirty – had affairs, lying and cheating – all whilst saying all was well? When the wife was blindsided and treated unfairly. Wife loves husband and followed all of his crazy rules but still gets tossed aside with no idea of why !!

akhiem roberson
akhiem roberson
September 23, 2016 9:09 PM

I believe I’m going through this right now.. I don’t believe in divorce but how do you know when it is the right time to move on? I’ve exhausted all options but I want to see how things play out.. But for how long though?

September 13, 2015 7:36 PM

I was wondering why all my family and friends had deserted me, then it hit me, that this scorned woman is working hard behind the scenes pulling people away from me because she couldn’t have me the way she wanted. I thank God for protecting me throughout but wonder for how long will this continue. I keep it moving and have also learned more calm and not react angrily as i did earlier. Though its very stressful with dirty rumours and wickedness that surround me as i travel thru town..

Antonio Starq
Antonio Starq
July 19, 2015 3:41 PM

To some of the women commenting about male chauvinist. Do you think it’s that easy for a man to leave a woman he loves??? Sometimes there is no other choice. Some women are their own punishment. I left a lot of women and it was always difficult, but nonetheless worth it. Thank GOD I didn’t marry them cuz my faith would make it harder for me to divorce. And yes, they all sought revenge, further proof that it wasn’t love but possessiveness. Typical women will do very little to strengthen a relationship but will work overtime to get revenge.

June 26, 2015 2:49 PM

So its ok to trade the woman you used up for a newer one and the ex isnt supposed to be mad because your imaginary sky guardian approves? Eat me.

April 10, 2015 9:32 AM

damn male chauvinist…..think u can hurt women and then say you are under
God’s divine protection.

October 30, 2013 10:03 AM

Good post.

July 24, 2013 12:56 AM

To Lance and all my friends… this is exactly where I am at right now! You will never know how much I appreciate this writing! Thank you!

Lance Scurvin
Reply to  K'J'
October 31, 2013 10:52 AM

I wrote it from the soul because this has been my exact experience my friend. I am so glad that you could extract something from it and do pass it on to someone else who will also. God bless you!

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