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Secret Stolen Pleasures: How Our Lives Are Affected By Porn Addictions…….

If I may ask without maybe running the risk of sounding a bit too forward, what kind of freaky circus hoops behind closed doors are our women made to jump through by their men?

Does your man demand that you try to keep up with the lusty images on the adult movie screen? No matter what your answer to this question, you probably wouldn’t even be aware of it anyway if it was the case! And while every relationship these days in 2010 may be a bit different in their needs, desires and fantasies, one thing is for certain, EVERYONE draws the line at some point in time as to what their limitations may be.

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But a porn addicted man just may not have a limit as to what the boundaries are in what he will ask his woman to do to satisfy his desires.

It’s an unachievable standard that gets raised higher and higher, and only after every effort has been made to accommodate the twisted fantasies that are possessed by their men, the bar will be raised once again to unrealistic and unwholesome heights! A never ending demand to match what warped data that these sex addicted men bombard their brains and sauté’ their subconscious with as though what they are putting their wives/girlfriends through is true intimacy!

These men come with an already prepackaged expectation of what “larger than life” detailed fantasies they crave for you to bring to fruition for them. But what many “willing to please” women are very unaware of and do not understand is that they are merely interchangeable sex mannequins in the overall scheme of things when they painfully come into the realization of how quickly another woman can easily fill in that slot that she thought was hers and hers alone sacredly!

Sexual pin cushions!

This is a truth that many refuse to acknowledge, but while most decent women will hold a man willingly and happily captive with the higher attributes that she possesses, there are MANY women out here who depend on their sexual prowess, tricks and gimmicks alone to attract and keep a man, and when you play this type of game do understand that it is only a matter of time before someone else appears with the same old played out strategy wrapped mysteriously in a different intriguing package.

Not let us agree that men watch porn to absorb a variety of sexual scenarios that they couldn’t possibly experience as a regular working class man as opposed to a groupie dodging celebrity who has “got it like that!”

It has been proven that watching pornographic images stimulates the pleasure centers of the brain very similar to the manner in which drugs do. Isn’t that frightening that now a person who is addicted to porn can now destroy their life in the same manner as a drug addict? But the startling part of this is at least the drug addicted individual will get caught much faster in his/her addiction because there must be some type of external interaction that must transpire in order to continue their habit. In other words, its just a matter of time before the drug abuser will get discovered.

But all that is required of a porn addict is an internet connection, a locked room, a towel (With a little lubricant! Lol!) and he/she is good to go!

It must be said that this is a heart hardening, mind altering habit that leeches a man of his emotion that should be reserved for his woman ONLY and limits the complete range of his ability to truly loving!

While he may go through the motions of being a loving man toward you as you foolishly continue to invest your precious love into him, all that will be left of his love for you could be compared to those life-sized cardboard cutouts at the mall that may LOOK like a human being!

Those paper thin images may fool a little child in the store facing it dead on but the secret is out of the bag when you stand to the side of it and realize it is only one eighth of an inch thick!

An illusion!

An empty shell!

But the women who love this type of man may feel there is something missing and not logically understand that there IS not only another woman interfering in their relationship, but literally the ghosts of THOUSANDS of women that have taken up a permanent residence in the deepest recesses of his mind!

She begins to observe his movements for any signs of infidelity but almost always comes up short with any concrete evidence of cheating. What she doesn’t realize is like that lethal drug Crack Cocaine, just ONE shot of porn is all that is needed to get a man hooked and goes STRAIGHT to the brain leaving the user craving more and more in greater amounts!

How can one woman keep up with such an inflated desire for sex alone? Even the male who is affected by this destructive habit is being lied to by his own self if he thinks that what he is indulging in is a wholesome practice!

Don’t get it twisted, most people masturbate, whether one admits it or not most do, there is a minuscule minority who don’t. But the most of us at some point in our lives have done it at different frequencies, no two people are the same so if there was a true poll conducted as to how often one indulges in self gratification, the results would be as varied as the grains of sand along miles and miles of a beaches shore!

Our sex drives are much more than just a physical urge; it is an emotional experience as well as a mental one. And anyone who is reading this knows that while masturbating you are damn sure thinking about those very things that turn you on whether you admit to it or not and whether makes sense or not!

The funny part about it is that the online porn experience is a phenomenon that has hijacked our normal level of fantasy play that most of us have and has pumped up our libido as though it were on some type of mental steroids, pushing our minds further beyond their normal capacities and in turn causing us to develop some VERY strange and twisted fetishes in the process!

The little things that were feminine turn ons in our culture don’t do it for men anymore because porn has conditioned them to expect a woman to be this insatiable ultra vixen “take it anyway/anywhere you want it bring another chick along I’ll do her too” sex slave!

How unfair and how unhealthy!

Its to the point now where a man doesn’t have to wait three dates (Nor does he WANT to!) to get that magical good night kiss at the front door at the end of a wonderfully intoxicating date! And let me add that in THOSE good old fashioned days where courting was mandatory, a man had BETTER be a perfect gentleman in his treatment of his date and also in how he spoke, carried himself as well as his being punctual. It was out of the QUESTION for him to not foot the total bill, hold the door for you and pull out the chair for you to sit down at the restaurant!

You see, his treatment of you was to be a snippet of what was to hopefully come as he would woo you over time to go steady as he set up to eventually “pop the question” on HIS knees!

What does the younger generation know about this? Back in the day we as men had to wait at LEAST three dates to get a romantic passion filled kiss that went by much too fast while the rule of the game now in these last days is that these porn afflicted wolves expect a woman to get down on her knees on the FIRST date and gargle his next generation of baby seed, and if it is not done skillfully to his fancy better than the last ten chicks who’ve accommodated his lustful whims (All within the last two weeks!) then she will quickly find HERSELF out the door!

How sad. And SHE probably footed the bill for dinner, the hotel room AND gave this goon/thug/clown her last paycheck just to make him “love” her or will be there to bail his sorry a-s-s out of jail only to discover those other four chicks waiting for their “man” to be released out of the slammer is also HER man!

I know I’ve gotten off of the point of this blog but in essence I haven’t, because I believe porn has eroded the wholesome dynamics of healthy dating and relationships.

Back in the good days when a REAL lady walked down the street, men would halt there conversation immediately to greet her in a respectful manner while offering to help her with her bags or anything to make her day easier.

It was an honor to offer yourself as a respectable man to help a lady……..
……and may I say that this was done with NO ulterior motive! Now most men offer to help you with a price to pay at the end of their “favor”, usually fueled by the larger than life images that have been dancing around in their head from the night before during their high powered rapid stroking right hand (Or left hand if he is a lefty! Lol!) masturbatory lust session.

They cannot see you woman as who you truly are inside as a person because of this!

Most of the time you are only to be used as cheap fodder for their twisted fantasies that are cultivated secretly behind that locked door but……

……..What ever happened to REAL passion?

We have been mislead and are literally lost in the propaganda and lies that the television, radio and overall fake culture has taught us about how the sexes should treat each other and we are WAY off point and off course!

The old men who should actually be a grand source of wisdom are “amped” up off of Viagra and Cialis and are chasing tail long after their booty chasing season in life is over! They sit at home watching porn plotting and planning how they are going to seduce the next young girl fresh off of the naive barely legal assembly line to add a notch to an already ragged belt that has been notched already for over half a century!

You can’t even bring your young daughters around the presence of these mentally stimulated physically medicated drones, because half of what they are thinking would land you and I in prison from what they would attempt to do with our young girls and how we would try to break their perverse necks! I’d really turn out some good blogs and drawings then ’cause I’d have all the time in the world on my hands! Lol!

Our wayward women have educated themselves in the ways of seduction long before they have matured emotionally to understand that what they are in possession of is a VERY powerful thing! So many are heard trading off the secret techniques of how the have learned to satisfy their lovers in the most freakish of manners all before graduating from middle school!

So access to pornography has not only ruined men of all ages but has warped the minds of women who now don’t understand how to carry themselves as proper upstanding ladies who are to demand respect by the way they carry themselves out and about the world! The follow the example of what they see in the sex crazed media and even more so what is expected by these sex crazed men of all ages!

We all must understand one thing, that satan has taken everything righteous and good in our appetites and has used it against us to bring us to an immediate DEATH!

Overindulgence in our natural desires is the perfect foil to bring us to our needs. Oversleeping, overeating and a chemically supercharged mentally elevated sex drive that is kept at its peak by a constant bombardment of erotic images in our everyday lives goes undetected by most.

Porn is just another means to reach those who are otherwise untouchable. Its a vicious cycle, it’s the undetectable mind drug.

So while many of us feel as though we are above the visible vices of drugs, alcoholism or gambling, pornography can and has slowly gotten its grip on our lives before we can realize it!

So while back in the day a quick very welcomed but unexpected and extremely intoxicating glimpse of a woman’s well endowed cleavage or the fleeting visual gift of a ladies well developed thighs in fishnets as she slid from the back of taxi cab were things that titillated men to wonder what more was “there” that was left to the imagination, these days are just not enough! We need to go BACK to the days of courtship as corny as it may seem to you because now more than ever before it is obvious that the erosion of male/female relationships and expectations have degraded not only an entire generation, but the very fabric of our total society to say the least!

Let’s show our youth by EXAMPLE the right way for the sexes to love each other while instructing them HOW to deal with there desires properly, showing them the process of courting and teach them that SOME things are BEST reserved ONLY for the marriage bed! The world would be so much of a better place indeed……….

 

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  • emocha77

    You know society has lost its respect towards women but also women are acting like sex crazy men as well. If they have lost respect for themselves then why get mad when he don't respect you. If you came at him like a hoe then expect to get treated like one.

    On the other hand as a women who loves herself the same thing you did to get him you need to do more to keep him spice it up have fun play around besides it is a sin to withhold sex from your husband and vice-versa. If you have issues that cause you to be uncomfortable during intimacy emotional problems baby go get healed don't get married.

    My husband wont need porno or a stripper or Vaseline I am all that I make the movie I do the dance and I am the lubrication to my HUSBAND not boyfriend had to say that.

  • nazriah

    *sigh*…..thank you lance…. soooo much

  • LaTonya

    Thank you for being a man of integral standard… well said Lance well said!

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