There is something to be said about the benefits of direct human contact as opposed to the detached cyber expressions of Social Media that the faceless entities of the modern day online experience utilize to emulate the fullness of human emotions.

I’m truly finding out that there is no comparison between the two.

……it’s not even close.

The face to face exchange of laughter, love, respect and admiration are virtually impossible to convey and feel through this medium called cyberspace. Especially when one never even had that foundation of a real connection in the first place.

For those who were connected in person in a real face to face friendship but happened to move far away to a different location where the desire to sit down to a table to share a great dinner and conversation is thwarted by hundreds of miles between both parties, I will give you and anyone a pass in a similar situation a pass because at least you’ve had the time to forge a real connection over time.

But if you’ve never met that “friend” or untested “love interest” that you swear up and down has such an intense bond with you I suggest that you think twice to reevaluate what you think is so real because nine times out of ten you’re only indulging in a unique form of mental masturbation where you’re the only person experiencing a bond that never existed and probably never will.

You need to think twice because when you really think about it, it’s hard enough to forge genuine life long friendships in person because even then the deceptions and disappointments run high in today’s social circles more than they ever have and I blame this sad phenomenon on that double edged sword called social media.

I call it a double edged sword because it could either be the greatest tool in your life to enhance it or the worst indulgence that one has ever experimented with because it has the potential to literally destroy lives if not used with caution.

At the time of this writing in 2018, I have been pushing my expressions, content and creations hard on the internet daily since 2002 to amass an undeniable body of work.

I really don’t think that there are too many individuals who are more qualified than I am to make a more accurate assessment of what is truly taking place in a society that’s become increasingly cold and distant with every passing year.

Most of us project a false image of who we are as a way of avoiding what we truly are on the inside and as a means of avoiding the task of taming that monster of a person that we’ve unfortunately become.

While it may not mean that we all have a dormant Serial Killer inside of us that we’re struggling to contain while we send out dozens of daily Holy Roller Jesus memes to our Facebook/Instagram associates in order to appear as though we are driving with a full tank of sanity, most of us have some major work to do on ourselves and social media is the perfect place to escape the essential work that will cause us to be better human beings over the stagnant dysfunctional entities that we’ve become.

We can live double, triple or even sixteen (Like in the old bestseller titled “Sybil”) or more nearly compartmentalized lives without the fear of them ever knowing each other to the point of us fooling ourselves into believing that each one is the authentic representation of who we are depending on how each one is needed in our various encounters in life.

This is dangerous because on social media the “checks and balances” of the old time instant validation doesn’t exist that kept us from forming a disastrous relationship with that undesirable entity. Well schooled manipulative strangers can be moved into our inner circle within minutes if they simply “appear” to be legitimate on their social media profile pages.

Most of us who feel as though we have a superior sense of judgment when it comes to our assessments of these social media sharks and we let them right on in to eventually drain us of whatever resource that they wanted out of us in the first place. Then we want to complain or cry after the damage is done.

This could have never happened like this if we still operated in the old manner that we used to when it came to adding a new friend into our lives and/or potential love interest.

Back in those golden years we were introduced to a new acquaintance by our tried and tested long term friends that could tell us all about that new person and what their moral standing was. They would tell us the good, the bad and the ugly without any filters because they would never want to see us go through any unnecessary trials and tribulations that could prove deadly.

The deceptive anti-social atmosphere that hangs over our lives today only pushes us deeper into preferring the glossy images of a well thought out Facebook profile page over a non photo-shopped authentic representation of a person who is honest about who they are…….a rarity indeed in cyberspace today.

But what if we all instantly lost the internet and had no choice but to go back to dealing with each other on a face to face basis?

I believe that the relationships that are forged organically would last a lot longer. I believe that depression and suicide rates would plummet as well as infidelity.

A lot would change but I don’t think that we’re going to lose the internet any time soon so we have to safeguard our lives and limit the amount of false connections with faceless people that we interact with on social media because at the end of the day we truly can’t ever feel a connection to a person who has never revealed who they were in the first place.

Take time and get to know a person and make sure that they are allowing you into every part of their lives in the same manner that they expect to explore every part of yours. The moment that you are not allowed to go any further in due time if it’s that type of connection, then that is a major red flag and the union should go no further.

Rule of the thumb?

I don’t have a problem with meeting friends on social media, the issue that I have is when it stays there. It’s okay to remain social media friends forevermore if you share similar interests. But don’t expect to swoop right on in to the inner circle of my life without proof that you’re not a fraud no matter how authentic your visual offerings are in cyberspace.

Everything that appears to look good ain’t always good! Let us get back to utilizing the true direct contact that humankind was designed to indulge in and enjoy. Without it, life will never be fulfilling and our voids will always cry out to be filled without any satisfaction in sight…….

Peace, Righteous Love & Revolution Always,

Your Brother,



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Media Personality | Culture Critic | Podcast Host | Blogger & Cartoonist who focuses on the issues of raw Human Nature the Mainstream Media is deathly afraid to touch!  THE LANCESCURV SHOW PODCAST focuses is on current events, trending happenings, news and thought provoking topics of interest in an uncompromising uncensored manner.

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