Not Everyone Deserves Access to You
You know, I’ve come to the conclusion that people treat your time the way you allow them to treat your presence. If you make yourself too available, they start thinking you’re like the corner store: open 24/7, ready to serve their nonsense whenever they come knocking. But let me tell you something loud and clear: You ain’t no corner store. You are a custom, limited-edition masterpiece, and you don’t let just anybody come rummaging through your shelves.
You want to train people how to respect you? Start by cutting them off. Nothing teaches a fool the value of your presence like the deafening sound of your absence. My silence has been the loudest teacher in many lives. I’ve had to train people to understand that I am not regular, mediocre, or nondescript. You don’t handle me like some random stranger off the street. You handle me with care, respect, and reverence—or you don’t handle me at all.
Stop Answering to Every Little Ding and Ping
Why are we giving people more power over us than God Himself? If your phone buzzes, you jump. If someone texts, you stop everything, risking your own safety just to respond. I’ve seen folks nearly wreck their car because they couldn’t let a text sit for five minutes. And who’s on the other end? Someone who wouldn’t even bother to check on you if you were laid up in the hospital.
Let me break it down for you: these people don’t care about you the way you think they do. They’re only around to siphon off your energy like emotional vampires. Stop letting people have open access to your life, especially those who bring nothing but negativity. Start training them by making them wait. Don’t pick up the phone. Let the text simmer. Let your silence teach them that your time is precious and not to be trifled with.
Scenarios of Disrespect and How to Shut Them Down
- The Constant Caller
There’s always that one person who calls you incessantly, even when they know you’re busy. Here’s the play: stop answering. Let the call roll to voicemail. If it’s important, they’ll leave a message. Nine times out of ten, it’s not. -
The Text Addict
The folks who text “Hey” like it’s a royal summons? They don’t deserve an immediate reply. Let their “Hey” marinate for a few hours—or days. They’ll learn to value your response when they don’t get it on demand. -
The Manipulative Friend
You know the type—they guilt-trip you for not dropping everything to cater to their drama. The solution? Cut them off completely. No explanations. Just ghost them. Your peace is priceless.
Techniques to Cut Toxic People Out of Your Life
- Go Ghost
Silence is golden. Stop explaining yourself to people who don’t listen. Simply vanish from their lives. -
Set Boundaries
Let people know when and how they can reach you—and stick to it. If they cross the line, enforce consequences. -
Prioritize Your Peace
Your mental health comes first. If someone disrupts your peace, they don’t belong in your life. -
Evaluate Relationships Regularly
Are they adding value, or are they draining you dry? If it’s the latter, it’s time to move on. -
Limit Access
Not everyone deserves a front-row seat to your life. Some people need to be demoted to the nosebleed section—or kicked out of the arena entirely.
Who Has Access to You Matters
Let me tell you, family: not everyone deserves access to your energy. Stop being a revolving door for people who bring nothing but drama and disrespect. Who you allow in your circle shapes your future. Don’t let the wrong people occupy space that’s meant for those who uplift and inspire you.
Remember this: you’re not obligated to answer every call, respond to every text, or entertain every fool who comes knocking. The only one who should have that kind of access to your life is the God who blessed you with another day.
