Some say it’s risky business. Others say that you have nothing to worry about if you are secure in your marriage or relationship.
Still others will ask that why would their mate need to spend time with a member of the opposite sex when they have THEM to spend time with as the significant other?
Is this type of connection between a married/attached individual and a member of the opposite sex even appropriate?Well on Friday the 13th 2012 we will delve into this topic which has been an issue with blurred lines depending on who you ask!
One couple will have absolutely no problem with their mate hanging out with a member of the opposite sex while to others it is a taboo issue and a straight violation in any form!
We have to question ourselves as a society and ask have we lost that sense of decency and standards that have always been that built in hedge of protection in our marriages or have we become the source of our on romantic doom by being just too permissive in what we allow to be acceptable in our private lives in the form of time spent with someone of the opposite sex that is not our mate?
Granted, we are not speaking of your significant others brother or sister depending on what sex they may be. And we are not talking about that unplanned unexpected emergency where a friend of the opposite sex happens to be nearby when a mishap transpires and their help was appreciated when no one else was around. NO! These are not the scenarios that we are not speaking on in this episode!
What we are seeking to clarify are those friendships where you mate seems to desire to spend exclusive time around someone to whom you really don’t know as well but whose role is downplayed when the subject of maybe them being a bit too close comes up. While some spouses seem to not have a problem with their wives or husbands having a drink after work with a coworker or maybe grabbing a quick bite to eat with that church brother or sister after service, we want to know HOW much is TOO much if ever acceptable at all!
With the rate of divorces and breakups happening at a breakneck pace, those of us who truly want to keep our relationships intact must guard every potential “crack in the armor” when it pertains to anyone moving in too close on the one that we love.
Is this paranoia or is it common sense? Is it insecurity or is it being proactive in protecting ones interest when we take a look at what is really going on with the disasters that we hear are happening in peoples personal lives. I believe it is a question that bears answering.
Most affairs happen with a person to whom ones mate has some type of regular contact with. It usually never starts out with the intent of having an affair but it seems to grow on you until one day you realize that a genuine attraction is growing between the two of you. You try to quell these thoughts and feelings that at first seem to be fleeting at best, but after a time when the movements are mirrored by this new (Or old) friend then the recipe for disaster is already being cooked up.
This scenario is not good and can happen for a variety of reasons. It doesn’t always mean that one is completely unhappy at home or want to hurt their spouse. It could be a certain interest that they share in common or maybe a cultural connection that they share that is not explored by a spouse that has a different upbringing and never expressed an interest to learn this very important component to their mates inner being.
Sure, there IS no excuse for an affair happening but we are asking a question tonight that if truly examined, would raise an issue that would possibly stop so much hanky-panky dead in its tracks to save the multitude of marriages/relationships that were just too trusting in the area of who their spouse is spending their time with and WHY!
For those who never had to deal with this issue and never had any bad situations coming out of their mate having friends of the opposite sex then more power to them! But for those who have “picked up” some unwholesome vibes from that person who seems to have more to their agenda than meets the eye.
Let us get down into this topic and all of the other issues that are sure to arise out of it! Hard earned wisdom and true experiences will be dropped freely on this night and you need to make a point of being there for sure!
Time: Friday, July 13, 2012 @ 10 p.m. Eastern Standard Time
Place: The LanceScurv Show Click here to attend this program at showtime.
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