This is a statement that I’ve been hearing all of my life and have NEVER heard anyone give a good enough answer yet to satisfy the curiosity stoked by the question. So, I’ve decided to get down in it myself and invite everyone in the LanceScurv family and beyond to chime in so we can put this age old dilemma to rest!
So is it really true that people change once in a relationship?
Maybe they do and maybe they don’t but one thing I have to say about it is that we have to understand that there are so many various factors that making an individual who they are and we can’t use the same set of standards on one situation that we would use on another.
My honest knee jerk reaction of an opinion is that the person that you first met and fell in love with was a fraud who masqueraded as your dream mate until they felt that they were “in” on your heart deep enough where they could now show you their real ass!
That’s just my honest opinion for most of those who claim that their mate has changed. But, as stated before, it is not a one size fit all thing at all. What if a man claimed that his wife/woman/girlfriend etc. (To much categories to list, YOU know what I mean! LOL!) changed on him and it sure appeared to be the case but only after he beat her up for years and cheated on her for years.
He left out THAT part of the story but had you thinking that his former other half was so cruel! These don’t count as far as I am concerned because he CAUSED her to change because of the rough abusive treatment he afforded her.
But aside from the people who never investigated who and what their so called “changed” mate was all about or the one who had no choice BUT to change because of the abuse that they suffered, there ARE some who for whatever reasons have changed up on their committed partner for what appears to be no reason whatsoever.
Now THIS is what I want to get to the bottom of, is it change or is it their lack of communicating their dislike for a certain aspect of their relationship which caused them to shut down and isolate their unknowing half to the point where they have no choice but to SAY that they changed?
You see, this is much more of a complicated issue than we think and one that we need to get a grasp on if we are in a relationship that we have invested heavily into and want to keep forever or are intending one day to find ourselves deep in that “everlasting thing” that is ours and ours exclusively.
Either way, we need to understand human nature at its grimiest in order to manifest that same nature into displaying itself at its BEST!
But you and I have heard of the complaints and maybe we were the originator of a few of them:
“She used to sex me down everyday and now all she does is nag me about the bills and how I don’t pick up after myself!”
“He used to take me on shopping sprees every weekend and wine and dine me but all he wants to do is stay at home and watch football while drinking beer!”
“Once she said “I DO” to me, that fine pretty young “thang” that stole my heart because of the way she took care of herself let herself go and blew up to somebody that doesn’t even LOOK like the person I married!
” He waited on me hand and foot at first, but after a few years all he wants to do is stay locked up in the office late at night jerking off and watching porn like I don’t know what he is in their doing! And when I want some loving from him he is too tired to stand up because he beats it down so much! what happened?”
“She was so responsible at first when we hooked up, but as soon as she got a hold of my credit cards, she has no control and it is only ME working all this overtime to catch up on the foolishness that she charges up every damn weekend!”
“I met him at church three years ago and married him last year but in the last two months I am finding out so many things about him and his past that I never knew and he never told me, if I knew these things beforehand I would have NEVER even given him sixty seconds of my time! That BUM!”
Trust me everyone, I can go on forever in sharing the things that I hear about that disgruntled and frustrated mate that feels as though their so called significant other has pulled the “bait and switch” on their heart once they knew that they were at the point of no return!
Perhaps you’ve gone through some similar twists and turns in your life that has given you an insight on what this phenomenon is all about when someone switches up on you after they get into the committed relationship.
Is it a figment of the imagination or is this a real concern because as each passing year goes by it seems as though the divorce courts are jammed and the divorce lawyers are becoming overworked and happily overpaid!
Tune in at showtime and let’s explore and expose the TRUTH!
……and maybe you can share a story or two about what YOU’VE had to go through! See you there!
Time: Friday, August 24, 2012 @ 10 p.m. Eastern Standard Time
Place: The LanceScurv Show <—–Click here at showtime to hear the entire program live on your computer or smartphone!
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