You Might Be His Wife, But Are You His Bottom Bitch?

I wish I could see your face now after reading the title of this blog. Bottom Bitch? I know it caught your eye but it is a valid question that I hope I can stimulate you into thinking about.

And if you are a woman who is concerned about the status and strength of your relationship to your husband or boyfriend (Or whatever it is that you call your very important love interest pairing!) then you might want to absorb the divine lessons in this crudely titled blog with the gritty raw contents.

To let the packaging of this writing repel you from going any further would be to limit your own understanding into the vast world of male/female relationships of which I have plenty of experience and although I do not claim to be an authority at all but I will let my words speak for themselves.

First of all, before we get into the meat and potatoes of his piece, let me clarify that the meaning of the word “bitch” is a female dog,
which is something that you probably already know.

Here is what the definition of a “Bitch” is straight out of the Merriam-Webster dictionary, so you can’t complain or “bitch” about the use of this word because it is OFFICIAL! Here it goes:

Definition of “BITCH”:
1: the female of the dog or some other carnivorous mammals
2: a) lewd or immoral woman
b) a malicious, spiteful, or overbearing woman —sometimes used as a generalized term of abuse
3: something that is extremely difficult, objectionable, or unpleasant
4: complaint

But you all know that the word’s real world use and meaning is not something nice at all. As if you didn’t know to call someone a bitch is fighting words, and PLEASE don’t call anyone’s Mother a bitch, because somebody is dying as well as there being a violence ridden bloody crime scene soon in the making there. Definitely not a pretty event at all! But as I really took a deeper look into this I feel it would be better if some women would try to live UP to the standard of a bitch instead of carrying on like they do!

Up to? Damn right! You see, the female dogs or “bitches” that I have seen out here in the world, even the stray dogs, would never abandon their offspring or purposely abuse them! But some of those same women who would be ready to fight when called a bitch would leave their children at home alone at night unattended just to go off all night ’till the break of dawn to party and drink at the nightclub!

So before you get uptight about a word, let’s pray that you could at least hold the high standards of “bitch” loyalty, of “bitch” responsibility and the “bitches” sense of duty to her kids righteously! If possessing those righteous attributes makes one a bitch then we need more certified flaming bitches in the world!

Now under that context, the word “bitch” is a step UP for many of these low minded deceitful ‘hood type hoochie’s who exude and exemplify the lower echelon of a bottom feeder existence. And it’s not just the hoochies in the ‘hood my friend, you can be a sophisticated and very much educated high class hoochie mama also, scheming and conniving your way on an entirely different plane where one would not even associate the lower levels of human behavior to even flourish. So even the so called women of a higher pedigree in society can take a page out of the book of being a righteous “bitch!” Don’t get it twisted.

Remember those old Blaxploitation movies from back in the seventies that always seemed to have pimps and prostitutes in them with a larger than life demeanor almost to the point of being comical?

Well if you can recall, out of the entire stable of “women” that he had in their twisted arrangement of a lifestyle, there was always this one main woman who was the “Bottom Bitch”, she was his most trusted woman and if the truth be told in that lifestyle, it pretty much WAS his woman.

The other women in the stable were kept in line more from her than the pimp ever did, contrary to what (“Bitch! Where’s my money!”) the movies always portrayed! The “Bottom Bitch” was the Chief Field Supervisor of the on-ground Street-Walking Operations. If she even detected that there was any foul-play with the other newer girls who were working for the pimp, he would know about it in NO TIME FLAT!

He didn’t have to question the word of his “Bottom Bitch”, whatever she said was LAW! So there was a respect in the entire stable for the “Bottom Bitch” as well as a healthy dose of fear, because if you pissed HER off then you would know for a fact that you were going to catch it BIG TIME from the pimp with NO QUESTIONS ASKED!

What many of the other girls have learned over time is that while that “Bottom Bitch” at one time or another was out there selling herself and giving the money to the pimp is that she and the pimp have a special bond over and above anything that the other women could ever hope to touch.

It went beyond the normal parameters of what society accepts as a typical relationship because they had their own set of unique rules so to say, most of the time they were unwritten and unspoken but nonetheless very much a concrete thing.

The “Bottom Bitch” even had her own hold on the pimp as a woman that no other woman seemed to have.

This unpredictable slick talking street smart and ever wise man of the streets could be putty in her hands in those unguarded moments where others have caught a glimpse of how almost “loving” their bond truly is. They somehow satisfied an extreme human need for each other in the midst of a lifestyle that the majority of us would never approve of and never be able to comprehend.

But this only goes to show you that regardless as to what life you live, you as a human being have needs that MUST be met, even if you are a street walker or a street hardened pimp! I believe that even in THIS example that there is a lesson for us all to learn if we look past the packaging OF that example!

You Might Be His Wife, But Are You His Bottom Bitch?

Wow! Do you even know what this means? What’s the difference anyway? Is there something that one does that the other doesn’t or even won’t? Wife sounds better but what could being a Bottom Bitch entail? Could the both even be one person?

Here is what the definition of a “Wife” is straight out of the Merriam-Webster dictionary:

1:a) dialect : woman b) a woman acting in a specified capacity —used in combination <fishwife>
2: a female partner in a marriage

Well, we all know what a wife is SUPPOSED to be but let me offer a loose and very informal explanation of what a wife is, but I won’t take too long on that part because that could end up being an entire blog all by itself and I want to get to the good stuff…….

Remember, in this explanation of what a wife is, it is assumed and expected that the husband meets the same level of excellence that she lives up to also. So please don’t think that I am making demands on her that are impartial and implying that the husband has no responsibility whatsoever.

A wife is someone that has divinely committed to her husband as he has to her. She sees no separation between herself and her husband when it comes time to care of him.

We he is hungry, she is hungry. She cannot truly enjoy a meal if she knows that the pangs of hunger are alive in his belly and will do everything to make sure that he is satisfied not only in the matter of his nutritional needs but in every aspect of his existence as long as it brings her no pain or discomfort. Which really is a no-brainer because he wouldn’t stand to see her in any pain or discomfort.

Toward her husband she is selfless and submitting. Her mind, body and soul always monitors his state of well being and if any part of his existence is deficient then she will make up the difference with the divine resources that have been placed within her for him by the Creator.

While she well knows the range of her vast capabilities as a woman, the rich color of those qualities come alive in its fullest majesty as she executes them like paint on the canvas that is his life.

In her mind there is no other nor would she ever think of another mans love. Her ability to totally commit to her husband is effortless because she loves him so intensely.

Now let us explore exactly what makes a woman a Bottom Bitch so that we can compare the differences between her and the actual wife.

The Bottom Bitch is someone that refuses to allow any other woman to love the man that she has committed to more than her and will be that one who will always come through over and above for that man regardless as to what the world will say about her fanatical passion for that man.

She understands that she may not be his wife, but she considers herself in actuality to he something much more than the wife that he has at home because it is SHE who is the one that he comes to in time of an emotional drought. It is she that he calls in the midnight hour when it comes time to make those ever important decisions at home unbeknownst to his wife.

When he is horny, she is horny. She refuses to think that he walks the earth in a state of arousal which makes him a target for another Bitch to scoop him up. She trusts that he knows what he has in her but she also knows how to put that divine pussy stronghold on him and she will not allow another Bitch to get in because she has slacked on her job. Unlike the wife, the Bottom Bitch knows the shark infested waters of the world quite well and she understands how tough it is to keep a man these days and refuses to throw him to those same sharks by not keeping him saturated in satisfaction.

The Bottom Bitch would rather keep her relationship with her man real. She is not into false pretenses. She doesn’t get all bent up out of shape if she catches him checking out another chick at the mall or in the street.

She knows a man will be a man. She will look past a lot of things and not get all bent out of shape because of it, but only up to a certain point. There are just some things that she will NOT tolerate.

He knows where the line is drawn and won’t ever think of crossing it. She is secure in who she is and knows that if he could feel comfortable to tell her his deepest darkest secrets, then he will always come back to her even if they reside under a different roof or a separate address. Home is where the heart is.

The Bottom Bitches connection is not merely in the physical realm, she remains faithful and committed in the most undying manner as her dedicated laser-like focus to “Ride or Die” with her man is a textbook example of unconditional love to say the least. Even when the world may doubt him she won’t flinch or waver in her faith in his good standing even when others have abandoned the ship. And if the truth be told, she wouldn’t even leave his side if he were found to be guilty in anything other than violating a child on purpose, but murder, theft or even infidelity, she “ain’t budging” ONE bit!

The Bottom Bitch is very protective over her man and while others may see the obvious in her adornment that she is quite worldly, she is very much a spiritual being, not in the sense where she practices any religion more than anyone else but she has a natural born gift of discernment that she is not afraid to use to filter out the negative entities that seek to scheme on her man and bring him down.

She will not allow you to “smile up” and “kee-kee” (False bravado) with her man if she detects that you are not an authentic person who is in his corner.

At the first opportunity  that she has to “step to you” to straighten you out and “blow up your spot” she will! It doesn’t matter if you are out in public at a social function or stepping out of the church house on a Sunday morning with your family. She is going to speak her mind and tell you exactly what she sees about you in your character and why you dislike her man and what you need to do as far as banishing yourself from his life.

The Bottom Bitch knows her place and would never do anything to bring any embarrassment or discomfort to her man. She will always willingly keep a low profile and is not trying to compete with the wife in any way whatsoever.

As a matter of fact, even though the Bottom Bitch knows damn near everything about the wife’s most intimate secrets, she would never reveal what she knows and will even “look out” for her in a protective manner also because although she would have loved to have been the wife, she knows that in a sense that she IS the wife but because of timing and a twist of fate she arrived on the scene maybe a few years too late and can accept that.

Now let me tell you, I can go on and on about the virtues of the Bottom Bitch but I have one more statement to you that may be more compelling and interesting than any other revelation that I have written in this article thus far.

You are probably sitting there in disgust and thinking to yourself that you are a bit shocked that after you felt as though you knew my general character from a distance that how could I justify writing an article in praise of “THE OTHER WOMAN?”

Well I’m NOT! And while I may have written it in that manner for effect and to help you see the “attributes” of BOTH mindsets, I NEVER SAID that they actually HAD to be two separate entities!

You see, the fact of the matter is that you can be his Wife AND his Bottom Bitch at the same time but the sad fact is most wives are NOT and this opens the door for another woman to step in and fill the neglected gaps that most wives fail or refuse to fill!

Those gaps are not always sexual. They can be something as simple as forging a connection to him by taking some interest in something that he loves. Be his buddy sometime. Present yourself as one of the boys. Allow him to be a man and get aggressive in the world like men do. Don’t chastise him every time that he may get a little pissed when an idiot cuts him off in traffic.

Let him indulge in his idiosyncrasies without huffing and puffing and limiting his time with it because you may not be into it so much. I’m not asking you to be passive but let him “rev” his engines sometimes without spoiling the show by always bringing him “back to earth” as long as it is harmless and won’t put either one of you in danger or harm!

What many women do not realize is that many men out here secretly have what I would call the “Bonnie and Clyde Syndrome”, they secretly desire to have a woman that is an extension of themselves in every way where they can do their “dirt” together in the world and come home to laugh about it. Now I’m not talking about the both of you going out to rob banks now, that would be foolish. What I am suggesting is to frequently “break the rules” together.

Give him that air of the unexpected where he just about anticipates anything from you, I myself have this quality and before I forget to mention it let me say that men TOO must learn how to be a “Bottom Bitch” for their wives except we will have to come up with an alternative name for it at some point! Lol!

What many women have failed to understand is that where the wife ends is exactly where the Bottom Bitch begins!

You can’t get angry at anyone except yourself sweetheart and I am in favor of the sanctity of marriage and the benefits of being faithful and the covering of marriage but I cannot sit here and speak of some rosy fantasy-like connection when I see reality for what it is and am being your friend to break it down in such a truthful manner for you!

I’m telling you the secret of keeping your marriage healthy only under the conditions of him being a worthy man to begin with! If he is a worthless piece of crap (If he is then you well know why so I won’t even have to go into detail here!) then this advice doesn’t pertain to your relationship because a man like him doesn’t even DESERVE a Bottom Bitch in the first place!

Let me open your eyes to one of the laws of nature. Have you ever noticed that of all of the men that you have known in your life from your childhood on up to the present time that are dynamic hard working charismatic achievers, have never had to look too far to enjoy the company of a woman?

No matter what marital status the man is discovered to have. A woman knows a good man when she sees one and while some will keep those other “wow I would love to be with him” thoughts buried in the deepest recesses of their mind, some may not be as kind as there will be a never ending barrage of interested women coming across his path purposely for the mere fact that he is viewed as a great catch and a wonderful man!

Some may want a “taste” while others might want the whole “sha-bang” for themselves and every possible desire that we can think of. It’s a wide scope of individuals out here in the world with an entire range of capabilities and possibilities.

I’m quite sure if you have reached this far into this article then you know what I am saying is the truth and you know that there is a whole lot of drama out here in the world along these lines of women who have GOT to have THAT man by any means necessary!

That being said ladies while a marriage is a total commitment where one shouldn’t feel as though they have to continually “qualify” themselves to hold on to their spouse, the fact of the matter is that we shouldn’t get complacent on any level in that divine union


Well because when you have a good man and a good husband those natural forces gone wild and left unchecked out in the world will still “kick in” and there WILL be those women who will greatly admire those qualities that your husband (Or whatever status of relationship that you have!) possesses the same way you did once before and some will not be able to contain themselves. Trust me, this is the reality of the situation and if you are not prepared to keep your relationship interesting and fresh then accept the fact that someone out there will and they will do so happily with a big smile on their face!

So while I am quite sure that most of you reading this are the epitome of womanhood and would never really ever consider yourself a “bitch’ by the definition of the worldly terms, please use your higher intelligence to usurp for yourself those qualities that other women use that are at your disposal righteously to use but sometimes overlook in the whole scheme of things.

Again I must say that this approach works both ways as the man must look to be that same person in submission to YOU as well. This cannot work in a one sided effort. I merely wrote this article in this manner directed toward you as the woman in order to strike home the point on a more personal level.

The external manifestation of the “Bottom Bitch” can never exist if the wife took charge of all of her resources that are available to her to righteously overwhelm her man with all of the love and attention that he deserves as he should also do for her.

So do not come away from this article fearing that there are legions of potential “Bottom Bitches” out there just waiting to snatch your man away from you and that they might know some freaky secret that will attract him and keep him coming back to there home of ill repute time and time again. It won’t work like that once you know that every man wants a wife that is also his “Bottom Bitch!

Whether he knows what that terminology means of not that is the dream of every man that I know! The disappointment in our relationships come when we realize that our choice of a spouse is not as full range as we thought it might be.

“A Lady in the Streets, a Cook in the Kitchen and a Freak between the Sheets!”

I can add on so much more to that one but that one statement alone that I am quite sure most of have heard is the credo for a successful relationship/marriage more than you could ever know. Take heed and make your life one that is as exhilarating, exciting and titillating over and above what your man thought and he will be so overwhelmingly happy that he will prepay his speeding tickets to the state in order to break the speed limit coming home from work to not waste a moment away from you to bring his mind, body and soul home to you to place that paycheck at your feet!

Trust me. There IS no other way!

Leave your comments below in the comment area as I would love to hear what you have to say on this blog topic!

Peace & Righteous Love Always,

Your Brother,



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